Spring Retreat: May 17th to 19th, 2019
Fall Retreat: TBD

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The Story of Us: A Marriage Enrichment Weekend Retreat

Want to enrich your marriage? Find new ways to connect? Learn skills to help you avoid common pitfalls in committed relationships? If so, then join Dr. Alexander for a marriage enrichment weekend retreat. Dr. Alexander has been helping couples become more connected for the past 35 years. He is an experienced workshop leader who shares his insights with warmth and wisdom. The retreat will be co-facilitated by Kevin Ruth Davis, LCSW. Ms. Davis is the founder and past director of the Clinical Training Institute at the United Family Services. She has been in private practice for forty years and is an internationally-recognized educator in Internal Family Systems.

 Learn how to:

  • Adopt a growth oriented “marital mindset”
  • Apply the Big 3 to your marriage: Positive bias, emotional regulation and empathy
  • Enhance your love story
  • Uncover and address the one real fight in marriage
  • Stop conflict in its tracks
  • Learn to make an effective apology
  • Find novel ways to connect
  • Increase sexual satisfaction
  • Re-discover your marital purpose

Dr. Alexander skillfully combines didactic material with ice-breakers, movie clips, couple and group discussion, popular music and the use of a personal journal to bring couples closer. The weekend allows couples to absorb and practice skills that might take months to master in couple counseling. The primary goal is to leave the weekend retreat with a new “felt” experience of your partner resulting in softened conflict and enhanced connection.

Retreat Outline
: Friday night, 7:00 p.m. to 9:30 p.m.
Topics covered:

  • The growth oriented marital mindset
  • Positive bias
  • Enhancing your love story

When: Saturday, 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.
Topics covered:

  • Blow ups vs. arguments vs. fights 
  • Practicing emotional regulation 
  • Using emotional literacy to repair
  • Strengthening your empathy muscle
  • Offering the compassionate apology
  • Exploring novel ways to connect – physically, intellectually and emotionally

When: Sunday: 9:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m.
Topics covered:

  • The mindful marriage
  • The marital mission statement
  • Finding purpose and meaning in your marriage

Who This Retreat is For:

  • All committed couples regardless of sexual orientation
  • Couples who want to get more out of their marriage
  • Couples who want to increase their connection
  • Couples who want to improve their communication and conflict resolution
  • Couples who want to build a better marriage for their kids
  • Couples who want to find purpose in their marriage

Who This Retreat is Not For:

  • Active substance abuse
  • Active infidelity or recent discovery of affair (within last year)
  • Physical violence
  • Already seeking legal counsel for divorce and unwilling to press “pause”

Retreat is limited to 10 couples


$1175 — Early registration (prior to April 1st, 2019)
$1225 — Registration 6 weeks prior to workshop
$1275 — Late registration (if space available)

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Dr. Alexander’s new manual for couples entitled Five Marital Conflicts and How to Resolve Them (Money, Parenting, Sexuality, Division of Labor, In-Laws): The Guide to Getting Along will be made available to retreat participants for purchase.


Renaissance Charlotte SouthPark Hotel
5501 Carnegie Blvd, Charlotte NC 28209
(704) 501-2510

The Renaissance Charlotte SouthPark Hotel is constructed around a central leafy courtyard. The hotel’s elegant but relaxed atmosphere makes it a perfect site for a couple’s retreat. Relax in the ambience of this wonderful hotel while re-connecting with your spouse. The venue is minutes away from upscale shopping, first-class restaurants and movie theaters.


Spring Retreat: May 17th to 19th, 2019
Fall Retreat: TBD


We would be remiss if we didn’t tell you how much you have changed out lives — and, as a result, our children’s lives – because we are in a much better place — better than we have been in, dare I say, 7+ years. I don’t know how to thank you.”

DP, former couple therapy client

Dr. Matthew Alexander is one of the top experts in the field of couple therapy. In addition to being an excellent clinician, Dr. Alexander is an author and musician. His clinical experience blended with his creative teaching approaches make his workshops a rare treat for anyone looking for depth of content and a fun learning experience.”

Dr. Bryan E. Robinson, marriage therapist and best-selling author of “Chained to the Desk”and 25 other self-help books.

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